This year was definitely an eventful 1, I mean in as many & all ways possible. This was the 1st yr I didn't get anything I mean anything from my sons father. No I don't get child support because I thought yeah I THOUGHT we had an understanding. As long as he was doing what he was spose to do for our son I wouldn't take him, and for the most part in the last 10 yrs he's done more than not. No not all the time, & not the amount I would choose all the time, but I didn't wanna be label as a bby mama or to even go through all that drama. All I wanted is for my son to be taken care of by his parents equally. Which would never be because he lives with me & we all know the child the person lives with has to deal with 10x times more than just a wknd parent. Sooo this year the boy or should I say we just realized he has a or had (so far so good) a stealing problem. So on top of his father not giving me any money for him my own son is stealing from me & other family members. *sigh* yessss it's one of the things a parent never wants to deal with,it usually goes hand in hand with lying & cheating. Well that's how &what I was taught. Sooooo my sis tells me money is missing from my nephews candy box, the box of candy that my nephew is selling so his school won't close down,the box of candy that we all contributed money to because why? because where family & that's what we do. I grew up in a household where money was left around at all times laying on tables, counters, night table drawers & it remained there until whoever it belonged to moved it. When I went to anybody's else house it was the same I Knew not to touch what didn't belong to me. There was never a discussion about it, it just went without saying. Now myyyyyy problem was lying I was a compulsive liar. Yeah I had a reason My mom was like my best friend & she cried about everything yeah she was IS a big cry baby & yes I hated to see her cry so I would lie to spare her feelings, NO!! IT ISN'T A GOOD ENOUGH EXCUSE but it was what I was using at the time until I myself got tired & fed up with it. Yes I got sick of myself I was beginning to not like myself because of all the falsifying I was doing. Anywho back to this lil boy who all of sudden in my eyes had a sticky fingers problem. So he went to my moms for 2 weeks & the 1st night there he cleaned her out. She told me she had like $10 worth of change on the her counter & he came & all of a sudden it's gone just disappeared. smh So now My mom who is like a P.I was definitely on the case. So of course she has a talk with him & he has to come clean. Then the therapy begins right smh right so he tells me that the 1st time he stole was when he was 4.....4!! are you serious stay calm mom (that's what I keep telling myself) so he tells me yeah 4 & at first he was scared but when he got away with it he got a rush. O_o These aren't his exact words but he tells me he got butterfly's in his stomach when he got away with it. So I have a career criminal in my eyes (no not really) but I'm tryna be very really really reeeeaaaly realistic. So now more therapy right. Ohh yeah then my partner told me i needed to threaten him to the point that he'd be too scared to even look at something that didn't belong to him. So I got the hammer & told him I was gonna break his fingers NOWWW HOLD ON BEFORE U CALL CHILD PROTECTIVE SERVICES I ONLY THREATENED HIM yeah had him probably almost pissing on himself but that was part of the scare tactics show, i banged on the counter with it a few times broke some nuts with it so he could really seee the damage that could be done with is measly lil fingers. But of course I wasn't gonna break his fingers with the hammer but i sure did tell him I would if I caught him stealing anything again. He was saved by my aunt cuz he was pleading & begging me not to break his hands & my aunt heard him & felt sorry for his behind, did the threatening work, NOPE, he stole again. IT wasn't till I had to do the guilty sobbing of a mother cry what else can i do I'm trying my best to raise you right no matter how hard I try you just like smacking me in the face all drawn out talk. Then he seemed to get it, so far it's been months since he or should i say since I last known that he has stole anything. Does he still touch things that don't belong to him yup I don't think that'll every stop but has he deliberately stolen or taken money from anyone? No he hasn't. What we started to do was reward him for doing the right thing. Like him doing his chores without me having to tell him, he gets rewarded so on & so forth. So now he gets to have his own money & he feels good about where it came from & when I ask him where he got money from he don't have to get that stupid look on his letting me know that he didn't get it the right way. So we still have our talks & I yes I still check his clothes, o_O whaaaaaat isn't that what mothers do, I mean I do wash his clothes & you know boys they be having everything in their pockets. Boys will Be Boys right "-)
Tuesday, November 23, 2010
Boys Will Be Boys .....riiight?!
This year was definitely an eventful 1, I mean in as many & all ways possible. This was the 1st yr I didn't get anything I mean anything from my sons father. No I don't get child support because I thought yeah I THOUGHT we had an understanding. As long as he was doing what he was spose to do for our son I wouldn't take him, and for the most part in the last 10 yrs he's done more than not. No not all the time, & not the amount I would choose all the time, but I didn't wanna be label as a bby mama or to even go through all that drama. All I wanted is for my son to be taken care of by his parents equally. Which would never be because he lives with me & we all know the child the person lives with has to deal with 10x times more than just a wknd parent. Sooo this year the boy or should I say we just realized he has a or had (so far so good) a stealing problem. So on top of his father not giving me any money for him my own son is stealing from me & other family members. *sigh* yessss it's one of the things a parent never wants to deal with,it usually goes hand in hand with lying & cheating. Well that's how &what I was taught. Sooooo my sis tells me money is missing from my nephews candy box, the box of candy that my nephew is selling so his school won't close down,the box of candy that we all contributed money to because why? because where family & that's what we do. I grew up in a household where money was left around at all times laying on tables, counters, night table drawers & it remained there until whoever it belonged to moved it. When I went to anybody's else house it was the same I Knew not to touch what didn't belong to me. There was never a discussion about it, it just went without saying. Now myyyyyy problem was lying I was a compulsive liar. Yeah I had a reason My mom was like my best friend & she cried about everything yeah she was IS a big cry baby & yes I hated to see her cry so I would lie to spare her feelings, NO!! IT ISN'T A GOOD ENOUGH EXCUSE but it was what I was using at the time until I myself got tired & fed up with it. Yes I got sick of myself I was beginning to not like myself because of all the falsifying I was doing. Anywho back to this lil boy who all of sudden in my eyes had a sticky fingers problem. So he went to my moms for 2 weeks & the 1st night there he cleaned her out. She told me she had like $10 worth of change on the her counter & he came & all of a sudden it's gone just disappeared. smh So now My mom who is like a P.I was definitely on the case. So of course she has a talk with him & he has to come clean. Then the therapy begins right smh right so he tells me that the 1st time he stole was when he was 4.....4!! are you serious stay calm mom (that's what I keep telling myself) so he tells me yeah 4 & at first he was scared but when he got away with it he got a rush. O_o These aren't his exact words but he tells me he got butterfly's in his stomach when he got away with it. So I have a career criminal in my eyes (no not really) but I'm tryna be very really really reeeeaaaly realistic. So now more therapy right. Ohh yeah then my partner told me i needed to threaten him to the point that he'd be too scared to even look at something that didn't belong to him. So I got the hammer & told him I was gonna break his fingers NOWWW HOLD ON BEFORE U CALL CHILD PROTECTIVE SERVICES I ONLY THREATENED HIM yeah had him probably almost pissing on himself but that was part of the scare tactics show, i banged on the counter with it a few times broke some nuts with it so he could really seee the damage that could be done with is measly lil fingers. But of course I wasn't gonna break his fingers with the hammer but i sure did tell him I would if I caught him stealing anything again. He was saved by my aunt cuz he was pleading & begging me not to break his hands & my aunt heard him & felt sorry for his behind, did the threatening work, NOPE, he stole again. IT wasn't till I had to do the guilty sobbing of a mother cry what else can i do I'm trying my best to raise you right no matter how hard I try you just like smacking me in the face all drawn out talk. Then he seemed to get it, so far it's been months since he or should i say since I last known that he has stole anything. Does he still touch things that don't belong to him yup I don't think that'll every stop but has he deliberately stolen or taken money from anyone? No he hasn't. What we started to do was reward him for doing the right thing. Like him doing his chores without me having to tell him, he gets rewarded so on & so forth. So now he gets to have his own money & he feels good about where it came from & when I ask him where he got money from he don't have to get that stupid look on his letting me know that he didn't get it the right way. So we still have our talks & I yes I still check his clothes, o_O whaaaaaat isn't that what mothers do, I mean I do wash his clothes & you know boys they be having everything in their pockets. Boys will Be Boys right "-)
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